The actual look of CF7 forms on your website will depend largely on the current WordPress theme used and the CSS styling that theme applies to standard HTML form elements.
To change the style of your CF7 forms you would need to edit the CSS style sheets used by your WordPress theme.
See Styling Contact Form for a general explanation of styling CF7 forms using CSS.
There is a link at the bottom of the page to a comprehensive and detailed article on Styling Contact Form 7 Forms. The article shows people, with suitable HTML & CSS skills, how to change the appearance of their Contact Form 7 Forms to meet their particular requirements.
RE: I don't know code but I can follow really basic instructions (ie, "eliminate the * next to" etc)...
You could also consider using Contact Form 7 Skins which makes building & stylling Contact Form 7 Forms much easier - even if you don't have HTML & CSS skills.